Quote of the Day: Relationships

“No relationship is perfect, ever. There are always some ways you have to bend, to compromise, to give something up in order to gain something greater…The love we have for each other is bigger than these small differences. And that’s the key. It’s like a big pie chart, and the love in a relationship has to be the biggest piece. Love can make up for a lot.” — Sarah Dessen, This Lullaby

I Miss My Boyfriend Chris....

... So I put this up as my FaceBook cover photo:

Can't wait to see you baby.
You are my everything.

Quote of the Day

Quote of the Day: Dale Carnegie

When dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but with creatures of emotion, creatures bristling with prejudice, and motivated by pride and vanity.

Dale Carnegie

Listen and Learn: Now Is the Time

Learning from everyone around you
You think you have something to give.... and you do
But it's not always about that
Look.
Listen.
Listen.
Listen!
LEARN from EVERYONE!
The bum.
The crazy.
The sad.
The needy.
The annoying.
The afraid.
The shy.
The lonely.
The angry.
Stop your voice.
Think.
Love.
Open your mind.
Allow.
Smile.

I learned a lot this year. I gave a lot. I took a LOT. I loved. I lost. I loved again. I broke. I gave up. I gave in. I let go. I held. I cried. I lost. I allowed. I forgot. I remembered... 

And in the end, or at least in this place I find myself in now, I have learned:

Not to take everything so seriously.
To laugh at myself (an unbelievably hard thing for me to do).
To choose my battles.
To stay quiet when what I have to say is less important than the persons feelings I am saying it to.
That my opinion on things that relate to others beliefs are always irrelevant.

That advice is only received when requested and not to give any unless asked.

Approach is everything - a defensive listener has a wall up. When you want to confront someone about something tough - wait for the right moment and ask nicely for communication.

To enjoy every single second I have with my kids - and really REALLY see, hear and touch them.

Eye contact is SO important. 

Hear people, listen and don't think about what you are going to say next - but only about what they are saying to you.

And, wherever you find yourself now, love you, embrace you, enjoy life... don't worry about what used to be or what might be. BE IN THE NOW.

Don't Try Too hard... Just Live.

Concsiousness

Consciousness

A friend on Facebook asked...

Why are we convinced that other people (or even we ourselves) possess consciousness?

I found the following video, from the one and only, Eckhart Tolle... enjoy:

I'm climbing

Quote of the Day

Quote of the Day

“Don’t keep the past in your mind. Don’t stress over the future. Because if you’re too worried about what has already happened and what might happen, you can’t focus on what’s right in front of you. The present is what makes the future and what helps you move on from the past.”

Quote of the Day

“People often say that ‘beauty is in the eye of the beholder,’ and I say that the most liberating thing about beauty is realizing that you are the beholder. This empowers us to find beauty in places where others have not dared to look, including inside ourselves.”
— Salma Hayek

Quote of the Day - Conan O'Brien

Nobody in life gets exactly what they thought they were going to get. But if you work really hard and you’re kind, amazing things will happen. - Conan O’Brien

Quote of the Day

Our notions about happiness entrap us. We forget that they are just ideas. Our idea of happiness can prevent us from actually being happy. We fail to see the opportunity for joy that is right in front of us when we are caught in a belief that happiness should take a particular form.
- Thich Nhat Hanh

Quote of the Day

Quote of the Day

Quote of the Day

Relationships are forever. They are eternal. Not just permanent in this lifetime. Once you establish a relationship, it is an eternal relationship. What holds bad things in your life is always your attention to those bad things, always.
- Abraham

Quote of the Day

Don’t bend; don’t water it down; don’t try to make it logical; don’t edit your own soul according to the fashion. Rather, follow your most intense obsessions mercilessly.

Franz Kafka


I can't give up, I won't.

My Thought of the Day

So, instead of just quoting other people – which I LOVE to do BTW (See tag cloud for "Quote of the day" of "Quote"), I decided it might be fun to start publishing "My thought of the day"… just something on my mind, simple.

Today's thought:

Learn to let go of "things". Release your attachment to them. Things are not who you are, things do not define you.

It's like the Kanye West song "All Falls Down" says:

"We buy our way out of jail, but we can't buy freedom
We'll buy a lot of clothes when we don't really need em
Things we buy to cover up what's inside"

Are you hiding behind your things? What would letting go mean to you? If you let go, would you find freedom? Could you be liberated? Could you see how things don't define who we are. Everything you need is already inside of you.

Practice releasing your connection to things. Give something away that you think of as valuable or sentimental to someone you know would appreciate it. See how that makes you feel. You may find that in the act of giving away something you thought you loved so much, you actually find more joy and love from the feeling you received by letting go and giving something to someone who needs it more than you than you would have by staying attached to that "thing".

Remember, we are all connected, we are all one; there is more than enough for everyone if we all give and share when we see others in need.

Let go. Give. Love.

Quote of the Day

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that frightens us most. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and famous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that people won't feel insecure around you. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in all of us. And when we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.

- Maryanne Williamson

Used by Nelson Mandela in his 1994 inaugural speech

Quote of the Day

Some changes look negative on the surface but you will soon realize that space is being created in your life for something new to emerge."
— Eckhart Tolle